Eden @eden@queer.cloud

And I think this is ultimately why I struggle with concepts of Buddhism/non-attachment philosophy.

At some point these relationships start to involve something that it is very difficult to break attachment to.

I cannot/find it very difficult to/ stop being attached to my own safety or the safety of children.

And that's totally fine. It's normal.

But not letting that very normal attachment come into a 'non-attached' relationship seems almost impossible.

But this theory stops working the second you start to involve big steps in the relationship.

(Sorry for the staircase relationship language here, but it is helpful for this)

You have a child together.
You move in together.
You buy a house together.

Suddenly you have other attachments, and these other attachments are intrinsically linked to your relationship.

Relationships can end if you need them to.

Contracts & children cannot.

I think that relationships are, on the whole, stronger when both partners work on a system of non-attachment.

You care for the relationship, and it is very important that the other person is happy, and that you're happy.
You don't expect your partner to be there forever, just, for as long the relationship is valuable to both of you.

And this lack of demand of permanence avoids the big concerns of whether they're your soulmate/other-half/ideal/etc.

I'm not sure if I should

A) Wait for the referencing to be released, and hope that the delay that's taken place doesn't delay my move-in date.

B) Assume my move-in date will change, and request that my estate agent push it back so that everyone involved in my move can push their dates back too (Mover, New Tenant, etc)

[Advice Wanted]
My current landlord is being quite slow in releasing my referencing information.

Which is delaying my ability to have checks completed, and so sign a contract etc for the next place and have a guaranteed moving date.

But I'm meant to be out the property quite soon for the next tenant, who is a semi-friend.

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Maybe MPs should just do quote of the day, and not anything else

WRT Carillion:
"one MP told a partner at KPMG that “I would not hire you to do an audit of the contents of my fridge.”"

When people say it at work, it hurts.

What hurts especially is when I see feminists saying it. People who frequently do better and try harder to be empathic still think it's an insult to be consigned to a PD that takes a fuckload of work and money to overcome.

The other day I realised that psychopaths were redefined as Antisocial Personality Disorder.

I take classes once a week with people with that disorder, as I have borderline and suffer many the same problems.

I've never felt so defensive and hurt as when I realised all those people saying "psychopath" as an insult were talking about my class colleagues. My friends. People like me.

Turns out learning to snowboard is SO difficult?

I've only done 4 hours so far, but I am currently at the point where I don't fall over every single time I go down, but when I do it's because I started thinking about what I was trying to do.

It's like, the less you think about what you're doing, the more likely you are to not fall over

yesterday I fell down an artificial ski slope.

I am covered in bruises. They are fun bruises :)

I have also learned not to play "guess my car" with people, it ends badly when I know like two cars and think front wheel drive is silly

Because my partner likes cars, I occasionally say things about cars

Do not be fooled. I still know very little about them, and think a Honda Civic is neat.

Bitcoin would never miss 5M payments over a broken switch.

Because that'd require it to be down continuously for 3 years.

I'm approaching the point at which me and my partner's sex toys don't fit into a drawer.

What's after that? Sex cupboard? Sex case? Sex cauldron?

But if you do Gaussian then you're assuming normality of x|y, which is semi-fine but also contradicts with one of the 'selling points' of CART, which was that it didn't need the variables to be normalised before use.

And I know they're not guaranteed normal even if you normalise, because this is a subset not the set, but like, it should _help_, right?

So my initial thoughts were to write a KNN to create microgroups within each split, because I assumed you could do it once each time.

But because it's leaf-wise, you'd have to redo the KNN each time, which is a lot of work.

And the other methods I've seen approximate the buckets based on other assumptions, like segmenting x times between min/max, gaussian buckets etc.